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Episode 8: Lovers - HOW TO CREATE LONG LASTING LOVE

Published Wednesday, December 18, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re addressing an essential topic: how to see your partner as a lover, make long-term relationships last, and cultivate desire. Whether you're single, newly coupled, or have been together for years, this episode is for you.

Drawing on her 10,000+ hours of therapy experience, Jacqueline discusses common issues couples face and stresses the importance of cultivating desire and growing together. Through client case studies, she illustrates how couples can grow apart if they aren’t conscious of the brain’s tendency to become accustomed to—or complacent with—the people around them.

The hosts explore the necessity of attention and intention, developing self-awareness and awareness of each other, and creating time and space to fill your days with intentional moments that enhance love and connection, whatever that looks like for you

In our *Erotic Moments* segment, Jacqueline shares a profound energetic experience from her Bali Couples retreat, while Claude recounts an unexpected moment of connection with strangers while traveling with their partner.

This episode focuses on cultivating long-lasting love and provides listeners with practical tools to explore their truths.

Plus, we’re answering your burning questions:
With the non-linear approach, how do you know when to stop? My husband has a hairy back and I’ve asked him to wax it, but he says I should love him as he is. Please help.
I know we need sex therapy, but my partner thinks we should be able to fix it ourselves. How can I convince him?

Tune in and let’s get loved up!

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer.

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

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Episode 7: Your relationship is like a tripod - HOW TO BUILD A STRONG, LASTING CONNECTION.

Published Thursday, December 05, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re shifting gears from the sexual to the relational. Whether you’re in a relationship, looking for one, or simply curious about the secrets to deep, lasting connections, this episode is your guide.

Jacqueline introduces a simple yet powerful metaphor: your relationship is like a tripod, and all three legs need to be strong and balanced. The legs? Logistics, friendship, and lovers. We break down each one—how they function, why they matter, and what happens when one is wobbly.

We also dive into the fascinating science of love, exploring how our hearts emit the strongest electromagnetic fields of any organ and how this energy fuels connection. Jacqueline shares how subtle shifts in our interactions can magnify love, turning it into a potent life force that strengthens every aspect of your relationship.

In this week’s Erotic Moments segment:

  • Jacqueline reflects on a tarot reading that pushed her to break through societal taboos and embrace her role as a sexual role model. She recounts a transformative, full-body orgasmic experience that lasted minutes.
  • Claude shares a tender moment of connection with their dog, leading Jacqueline to illuminate how intimacy and love aren’t confined to romantic relationships—they’re present in every interaction, if we’re open to them.

Plus, we’re answering your burning questions:

  • What’s an example of non-linear lovemaking?
  • Should I masturbate if I’m having regular sex?
  • Is spanking inherently demeaning?

This episode is packed with insights and tools to help you cultivate a relationship that’s not just strong but overflowing with love and intimacy.

Tune in and learn how to love—deeper, better, and with more intention


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Online Course for Men! Use code POD at checkout for your discount! https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course 

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. 

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ 

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats 

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/


This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists 

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Episode 6: The Truth - MALE BODIES

Published Wednesday, November 27, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re diving headfirst into a topic often left unspoken: male bodies. Whether you’ve got one, love one, or are just curious about WTF is going on down there, this episode is for you.

Drawing on her 10,000+ hours of therapy experience, Jacqueline unpacks the truth about men—beyond the stereotypes. Far from being sex-crazed maniacs, men are often less sexual than women and just as emotionally complex. We explore the crushing societal and relational pressures placed on men, the historical timeline of male liberation versus female, and why this generation holds the keys to unraveling centuries of repression.

We’re tackling everything from the limits of male self-expression to the unspoken burdens men carry—and yes, we’re going there on penis myths, "the small man’s revenge," and why size really doesn’t matter when it comes to intimacy.

In our Erotic Moments segment, Jacqueline shares an unforgettable "spanky wanky" moment from her latest online course shoot, as well as a deeply impactful personal experience. Meanwhile, Claude opens up about the complexities of non-monogamy, shedding light on how jealousy can be a tool for growth and connection when handled with care.

This episode is all about breaking free from shame, busting myths, and giving men (and everyone who loves them) the tools to explore their truth.

Plus, we’re answering your burning questions:

What do men actually find attractive?

How can you navigate premature or delayed ejaculation?

And don’t miss the exclusive pod discount on our new men’s course—it’s your chance to level up your love life, no matter what’s in your pants. Tune in and let’s get real about the truth behind male bodies!

Online Course for Men! Use POD at checkout for your discount! https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course 

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. 

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ 

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats 

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists 

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Episode 5: The Truth – FEMALE BODIES ARE SEXUAL PLEASURE MACHINES

Published Wednesday, November 20, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re diving into a topic sexology has too often ignored: the incredible power of the female body. Jacqueline takes us on a fascinating exploration of why female bodies are not just sexual but profoundly more sexual than their male counterparts. With more erogenous zones, greater capacity for pleasure, and a wide spectrum of orgasms, the female body is a marvel of sexual responsiveness.
We break down ancient Taoist perspectives on the vagina, including the concept of the “three gates” of female sexuality, and discuss the evolutionary advantages of embracing this innate power. Jacqueline also shares insights into how societal misconceptions and patriarchal narratives have misrepresented female pleasure for generations—and how we can reclaim it.
In our Erotic Moments segment, the hosts get personal: Claude opens up about the intimate link between music and libido, while Jacqueline reflects on transformative stories from her recent couples retreat.
This episode also addresses listener questions, tackling topics like overcoming religious trauma surrounding sexuality, solo orgasms versus partnered pleasure, and how to integrate tantric practices into everyday life.
It’s not just a conversation—it’s a call to action. This episode celebrates the female body as a vessel for love, bonding, and higher-order connection, empowering AFAB listeners to embrace their full potential without shame. Packed with practical advice, myth-busting, and liberation for all genders, this is one episode you can’t miss!

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their Instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer.

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w
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Episode 4: The History of Sex - WHY OUR SOCIETY IS SO SEXUALLY DYSFUNCTIONAL

Published Wednesday, November 13, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! In this episode, we’re digging into the fascinating history of sex and how our society ended up so tangled in sexual dysfunction. Jacqueline takes us on a journey through time, showing how the dawn of agriculture and the rise of war changed everything about our sexual dynamics. Starting at the roots of human history, she explores how our ancient ancestors developed deeply sexual, love centered lifestyles. Early humans thrived in matrilineal societies that worshipped the Earth Mother—but as we moved toward land ownership and patriarchal structures, control over women became a social obsession. Who could prove paternity? And how did that reshape our cultures? Jacqueline’s insights reveal how these shifts still impact us today, and why it’s up to this generation to unwind centuries of sexual repression. We explore sex as an innate tool for human bonding and how true intimacy can lead us to profound, higher-order experiences. In our weekly segment Erotic Moments, we go deeper into the hosts' lives: Claude shares a personal connection to the ocean, while Jacqueline describes a powerful meditation experience that recharged her creative energies. From prehistory to modern times, this episode is all about giving listeners the freedom to explore themselves without shame. We tackle listener questions on topics like swinging, libido changes in menopause, and tantric approaches to sex. Don’t miss out—this episode is packed with historical insight, practical tools, and thought-provoking conversation!

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their Instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer.

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w
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Episode 3: Non-Linear Lovemaking - SEX IS LIKE A PICNIC

Published Tuesday, November 05, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! In this episode, we dive into Non-Linear Lovemaking—a fresh concept from Jacqueline Hellyer that challenges the old playbook. Forget the traditional bases and routines; instead, we explore sex as a dynamic, moment-by-moment experience that partners create together.
For many of us, growing up meant minimal guidance beyond abstinence talks and porn. Through our weekly segment, Erotic Moments, we peel back the layers on what it means to connect authentically. Claude opens up about a recent injury that led to a surprisingly embodied experience, while Jacqueline shares highlights from her time at a three-day tango festival in Melbourne.
From solo exploration to the nuances of partnered intimacy, we break down how to tune into your desires, communicate them openly, and bring a sense of playfulness into the process of discovery. We The hosts cover the impact of non-linear approaches, the role of tone, and practical tips for feeling at ease—whether alone or with a partner. We also tackle listener questions on a wide range of topics, including sexual trauma, IVF, and discovering full-body pleasure zones.
Don't miss this episode—it’s packed with insights, tools, and conversation that make it our most helpful yet!

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their Instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer.

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists
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Episode 2: Pleasure and Connection - HOW TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Published Tuesday, October 29, 2024

Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! In this episode, we’re diving into a big one: How to Know What You Want! Growing up with little more than abstinence talks and porn portrayals, most of us were left in the dark about navigating our sexuality. Through the weekly segment, Erotic Moments, the hosts peel back the layers of this topic.
Claude shares a recent intimate experience with friends, while Jacqueline recounts her unique journey into high-quality erotica production to fulfil a friend’s fantasy—an exploration that highlights the focus of the episode, pleasure and connection as well as a how-to-guide on checking in with your desires moment by moment.
From solo exploration to shared experiences, the hosts unpack how to get in touch with what you enjoy, how to communicate it, and the playful art of discovery with a partner. They discuss the dance of initiation, the influence of tone, and share real steps to feel more at ease in both solo and partnered settings. Finally, they answer some of the most-searched questions on sex, love, and intimacy, grounding the episode in pleasure and connection.

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their Instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

How to orgasm using just the breath

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists
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Episode 1: Meet Jacqueline and Claude

Published Monday, October 21, 2024

Episode 1 introduces the two hosts, Jacqueline and Claude, and the three segments of the podcast. We meet Jacqueline and Claude and are introduced to their accreditations, dynamic, and skill sets. The episode then progresses to the second segment where the hosts discuss the theme of the episode, and why we've made thispodcast. The third segment, myth-busting is where Claude presents two myths to bust: “you need to have an erection to have sex” and “lesbian sex isn't real”. Jacqueline uses her expertise and non-linear approach to sex to rewrite societal scripts.

If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer.

Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com

Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/

This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

Sex Playlists
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w
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